I really was moved by the idea of repentance. I'm sure the authors chose that concept intentionally - it's easier for me to either get mired in the overwhelm of the state of race relations in our country, or to just ignore it because it's complicated and overwhelming. The idea of repentance is to acknowledge sin and commit to changing it.
I want to see where I need to change my behavior personally, and where I can be involved in changing the collective behavior of any institutions or organizations to address the hundreds of years of personal and systemic racism and oppression. Read More
I'm working on getting my neglected blog back up and running. As you can see, I have a lot of tabs open... work email, personal email, calendars, scheduling a train to NYC, articles I'm reading, maybe some "This is Us."
Feels about right. I've had a lot of tabs open in the 2.5 years (gasp!) since I've written on here.
The most significant tab: we added two more babies to our family! In February 2016, our twin daughters were born. It's an adventure, for sure. But they're now 2 years old, and we're out of [some of] the crush. I can breathe (and sleep) a little more. Read More
I was recently interviewing candidates for a position we had open. Once I reviewed someone's application, if they looked interesting to me, the very next thing I did was go to Google.
I'd type in their name. If that didn't immediately generate a response, I'd type in their name and city. I looked on LinkedIn, I looked on Facebook, I looked on Twitter. If I were more savvy I'd have checked out Instagram.
And yes, I made judgements about the person based on what they posted online. Pictures, status updates, comments. I can learn about you from what you post, and that becomes part of the data that I use to evaluate your application.
If I see a picture of you and your friends around a bonfire with red solo cups, no big deal. If I see countless pictures of you playing beer pong, falling down drunk, smoking a questionable substance, I pause. If I see a picture of you from a recent beach trip, no big deal. If I see selfie-after-selfie of your cleavage or bathroom mirror shots, I pause. If I see sweet pictures of your children, I smile. If I see weeks-worth of posts lamenting potty-training progress, I pause. If I see where you’ve posted articles about topics that are important to you, I take the opportunity to learn. If you post articles or status updates bashing people who disagree with you, I pause. Read More
So you’ve just gotten a positive pregnancy test and you're considering telling your parents and close friends. What else should you do?
Sign up for childcare, of course!
You're likely staring at the screen saying: "What? I just took a pregnancy test. I haven't even been to my doctor/midwife yet. You want me to think about childcare?"
In response, I offer this passage a woman posted on a listserve I subscribe to:
"So, after three years on the waitlist (literally since I was six weeks pregnant) for the daycare at my office, our two and a half year old finally got a spot! Woohoo!"
And that is far from the first time I've heard of that happening. Several years on a waitlist for childcare. I wish I were joking.
When I was pregnant with our first child, we started looking into daycares and found the same thing: years long waitlists.
It’s likely more common in more urban areas, but even if you don’t have years long waitlist, you still have to sort out the different options for childcare. Obviously this requires some planning.
Looking for childcare assumes you are returning to work. We'll talk about that in another blog. But - assuming you are returning to work, you'll need someone to look after your baby. Read More
“We’ve all heard it before: By not negotiating, women sacrifice thousands of dollars by the end of their professional lives. Recent research has revealed, however, that the number is closer to half a million.”
This quote comes from an article on the Glass Hammer which cites that 52% of male MBA graduates surveyed negotiate their salaries, compared with 12% of female MBA graduates. And when the researcher had people evaluate those negotiations (on video) the women were perceived as demanding, while the men were not.
Should you still negotiate your salary and risk being perceived as demanding? How? And what do you leave on the table if you don’t negotiate? Read More